How do we come to a conclusion that we "know" someone better than anyone else ? where did that notion ever come from. If you really look at it, noone knows another person that well, hell, we dont know ourselves that well.
There comes a point in our life, where we have to find ourselves in life, some ppl find it at 17, some ppl find it at 40. no matter when we find ourselves, the important thing is we we do find ourselves.
when we date, shouldnt that be a to finding ourselves ? from that logic then we should date as much different personalities as possible right? that is a path i followed. most times i wished i had found that one person to connect with early , so that we could both grow together.
of course that "right" person, would have the ability to compromise and show respect to me, of course i would have to compromise and show respect to her. after those hurdles are understood, then other things will fall inline, such as any sexual compatibility issues, finance issues and basic chore issues. those things should sound really minor, but it can take a toll and you have to be mindful of that.
after all that is said and done, whats next ? possibly the decision on living together, marriage and kids. is that the ultimate personal dream for a relationship ? for me those things are really not on the radar, of course i think about them and possibly see them in the future (except for the kid thing.. eeekk).
fear is the thing that is really keeping me or maybe you from actually wanting and seeking those things, theres always questions of, am i good enough, if i put myself out there will i be hurt, or how would ppl in my life view this decision that i have made, and worst of all i dont want to be that stupid "boy" or "girl".
I think when it comes the issues we all have to deal with it, for me its a good thing i dont have to deal with it now.
you know its being a really tough semester, a family member has life threatening conditions, ppl who i love and like are trying to figure out there situations, and it seems like everything is going a mile per minute, but at least we have another day to fix whatever ails us, and thats why i never give up, because there is always tommororow. my personal life with the girlfriend is going well, of course every relationship has its ups and downs, but at least we are willing to work it out and take steps to correct any problems..
